Just like it has been said that there is no easy way to break somebody’s heart, telling your children that you and your spouse are divorcing is also no easy feat. Protecting your children at all costs must still take utmost priority, regardless of your reason for getting a divorce. It starts with how you break the news to them.
You and your spouse are not the only ones whose lives are changing and undergoing a challenging time – the divorce is also a very fragile time in your children’s lives. How you tell them that you are ending your marriage, changing the family dynamics forever, may have a big impact on them for many years.
Here are some tips you may consider to soften the blow to your children:
Keep a united front during your announcement
It may be a good idea to tell your children together. This may reduce the risk of your children being on the receiving end of different stories from each other. It also shows that despite your decision to end your marriage, you and your spouse are putting hard feelings aside to focus on your future roles as parents, instead of a married couple.
Prepare what you want to say
You may need to be extra careful with your choice of words and your delivery because the topic is very sensitive. It may be a good idea to outline the child-friendly version of why you are doing this and what they should expect in the future. You and the other should also be prepared to answer any questions they may have.
Be honest and reassuring
It can help to prepare to accept the various emotions that may play out when you tell your children about your divorce. It may be wise to reassure them that their feelings are valid and that it is okay to feel however they feel. Let your children know that no matter what happens, both parents will love them and support them. It may also be a good idea to be honest with them about the changes they should expect after the divorce, assuring them that you will work hard to establish routine and normalcy in their lives.
There is no easy way to tell your children that their parents are divorcing, but a sincere and honest discussion can help.
